This free 15-question quiz can help recognize the signs of being gaslighted
The Gaslighting Quiz
Am I Being Gaslighted?
Who Is This Gaslighting Test For?
This quiz is designed for anyone who suspects they may be experiencing gaslighting in their life. Whether you’re uncertain about a romantic partner, friend, or family member, this test can help clarify your emotions and offer insight into how you’re being treated.
Although gaslighting isn’t a formal diagnosis, this quiz may guide you in deciding your next steps—such as speaking with a therapist or considering limiting contact with the person involved
About This Gaslighting Test
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser or bully manipulates the victim into doubting their own feelings, perceptions, and sense of reality. While it most commonly occurs in romantic or family relationships, it can also happen in friendships, workplaces, or healthcare environments.
This type of abuse typically unfolds gradually, leading the person being gaslighted to lose confidence in their own judgment—sometimes to the point of questioning their sanity.
Signs of Gaslighting
Gaslighting often occurs gradually, making it hard to recognize if you're unfamiliar with the signs. Over time, it can lead you to doubt your own thoughts, memory, emotions, and even your sanity—potentially resulting in mental health challenges such as anxiety, depression, or suicidal thoughts.
Common signs of gaslighting include:
- Doubting your own emotions or perception of reality
- Questioning your judgment so much that you're afraid to express your opinion
- Feeling anxious or insecure around the person gaslighting you
- Believing others view you as crazy, strange, or exactly as the gaslighter describes
- Thinking the gaslighter's words are always right, even if you've questioned them before
- Feeling frustrated with yourself for changes in your behavior, like feeling weaker than before
- Worrying that you're overly sensitive
- Second-guessing your memory of past events
- Feeling like you're not good enough or unable to meet expectations
- Frequently apologizing just for being yourself
People who use gaslighting as a tactic often do so to gain power and control by distorting another person’s thoughts and emotions. This behavior is commonly associated with certain personality disorders, including antisocial and narcissistic personality disorders.
If you're being gaslighted, remember: it’s not your fault. There are steps you can take to safeguard your mental well-being. Consider creating physical space between you and the gaslighter, keeping written records (such as notes or saved conversations), setting clear boundaries, confiding in someone you trust, or even ending the relationship entirely.
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